Whether it’s your favorite way to warm up or the night’s main event, oral sex is a fun and intimate way to pleasure a partner. 

While this type of sex is often labeled as solely foreplay, this outdated notion is losing ground as modern sexual wellness recognizes a broad spectrum of expression — beyond penetration.  And taking the time to properly learn how to give a blowjob or how to go down on a woman can turn average sex into something explosive. 

If you want to blow your partner's mind, up the ante with these oral sex tips for people of all genders.

How to give oral sex: 15 tips and tricks  

It doesn’t matter if you're giving first-time oral sex or you're a seasoned expert. There's always something new to learn when it comes to giving cunnilingus or a blowjob. 

To maximize your partner's sexual pleasure, try these top oral sex tips for men, women, and nonbinary folks alike: 

1. Check in with yourself and your partner 

Always ask your partner for enthusiastic consent, and let them know you’re also in the mood. This mutual enthusiasm checks that you’re on the same page about what’s going to happen, which is essential for a safe, fulfilling experience.

2. Communicate with each other  

Communication can make or break your relationships, even if you're just hooking up. Before sex, engage in open, honest discussions about your desires, boundaries, and needs to create a comfortable and consensual environment. 

Communicating also helps you and your partner better understand what you enjoy. Some people love long, rough oral sessions, and others like to keep it short or gentle — so talk about it.

3. Take your time  

Don't rush oral sex (unless that’s what you’re into). Instead, slow down, take your time, and savor the cunnilingus or blowjob experience. Pay attention to your partner's cues and responses to your touch. Observing their sounds and movements gives you the chance to notice what’s working. 

4. Try different things  

Experiment with various approaches to suit your partner's unique needs. Try gentle licking, playful sucking, and anything else they ask you to do, as long as you’re comfortable. You can also add a vibrator or male masturbator for more sensation.

5. Use your hands 

Add a whole new dimension to oral sex by incorporating your hands. If your partner has a G-spot or P-spot, insert a finger into their vagina or anus and apply gentle pressure in a "come hither" motion if they're open to it. You can also use your hands to gently caress your partner's other erogenous zones, like the breasts, inner thigh, and butt.  

6. Create a comfortable environment 

Create a space that feels inviting and comfortable for you and your partner. Before sex, adjust the lighting, music, and temperature, and light some candles for a more sensual ambiance. If you love having sex to specific tunes, compile a playlist. 

7. Use lube 

Sexual lubricant isn't just for penetrative sex. Use it during oral to reduce friction, enhance comfort, and make the whole experience run seamlessly. Depending on your needs and whether or not you're incorporating sex toys like a vibrator, choose a water-based or silicone-based variety. And of course, a flavored lube can add some pizzaz.

8. Stay hydrated 

Hydration plays a crucial role in maintaining comfort and natural lubrication. Remember to drink water throughout the day and keep a full glass or bottle nearby for breaks. Nobody likes a dry mouth.

9. Experiment with rhythm and pressure 

Whether you're giving head to a person with a vulva or a person with a penis, incredible oral sex has one thing in common: variations in rhythm and pressure. Pay close attention to your partner's noises and reactions to discover the tempo that can take them over the edge, and throw in some eye contact for good measure. And remember: If they say “don’t stop,” don’t adjust your rhythm. 

10. Focus on the entire area  

While pleasuring the clitoris or glans is the main focus of oral sex, the surrounding areas — like the pubic mound and perineum — can be erogenous zones for your partner, too. Explore the entire sensitive genital region to find out how your partner reacts. Try licking, sucking, and nibbling to take your oral sex game to the next level. 

11. Make some noise  

Breathing and vocalizing can be incredibly arousing for both the giver and receiver. To intensify your experience, moan, breathe heavily, or speak softly to your partner. The sound of your enjoyment is a massive turn-on for many people, and it shows your partner how sexy you think they are.  

12. Incorporate gentle suction  

If you’re focusing on the clitoris, try combining gentle suction with your partner's preferred tongue movements. Hold the clitoris very softly between your lips — adding more pressure if your partner likes — and use your tongue simultaneously for added clitoral stimulation. 

13. Multi-task

To pleasure penis-owning partners, you can use both your hands and your mouth at once. Lightly suck the tip of the penis while stroking the shaft with one hand and using the other hand to softly caress the testicles. This all-encompassing approach offers an exciting, diverse range of sensations. Just don't forget to choose a position that supports your neck before going at it.  

14. Use circular tongue movements 

No matter who you’re going down on, circular motions can elevate their experience. If you're performing oral on a penis, swirl your tongue around the head in quick circles. If your partner has a vulva, swirl your tongue gently around their clitoris. For many, this motion creates an intense sensation. 

15. Add some dirty talk  

If you're giving oral sex and feel a bit awkward, use dirty talk to describe what you’re doing. You might have to pause to do this — you’re using your mouth, after all — but it’s worth it to build even more tension and bring your partner to orgasm. It’s also great practice for having phone sex later on.  

How to have safe oral sex  

It's a common misconception that you can't get sexually transmitted infections (STIs) from oral sex. While the risk of transmission is lower than through penetrative sex, it's still essential to take precautions to keep you and your partner STI-free. 

Here are a few ways to make oral sex safer: 

1. Use barrier methods 

Use barriers like condoms and dental dams to reduce your risk of STIs. These barriers act as protective layers, reducing direct contact and protecting both the giver and the receiver. They’re especially crucial during sex with new partners, in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships, or when your partner's STI status is unclear. To make oral sex even tastier, try flavored condoms. 

2. Get tested regularly  

If you're sexually active, get regular STI screenings and general health check-ups. This can help you spot and treat health issues faster — including STIs. On top of that, being aware of your own and your partner's health status creates a more responsible, safer sexual environment. 

3. Practice good oral hygiene 

Minty-fresh breath can make sex more enjoyable, but avoid brushing or flossing your teeth immediately beforehand. Why? Brushing and flossing can cause minor cuts or abrasions in the mouth, increasing the risk of STI transmission. Similarly, be mindful of the state of your and your partner's mouths before oral sex, and avoid this activity if you notice sores or bleeding gums. 

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